Deployments
When I joined the military family, I knew I was bound to go
through a deployment at some time or another.
It is never easy for anyone not matter how many deployments you go
through. My husband just left a couple of weeks ago for a six month deployment. This is our third deployment and we have been
through a short tour as well. They never get any easier and each deployment
comes with new and different challenges. I have never been on the side of a deployment
where I am the one away from my family. I have always been on the side where I
am here to take care of the house and kids. I can’t say which one is easier,
but I can say my part is a lot of work. I am now the mommy and daddy to the
kids for the next twenty three weeks or so. I am the only one helping with the
homework, cooking, cleaning, disciplining, and the list goes on. The kids drive
me crazy as much as I drive them crazy. For the kids, it is hard for them to
realize six months in time form. That is
a very long time for them and seems like he is never coming back home.
The deployments have come a long way in
communication since our first one. Our first deployment was letter writing or
emails to stay in contact. This deployment we are able to skype and make phone
calls. This has helped the kids tremendously.
We have once a week skype calls and the kids look forward to them every
week. The kids love being able to see their dad and where he stays while he is
there. 
I get so busy in my normal routine of taking care of
household chores, the kids, and the errands that I have to remember how much
stress this deployment has on my husband as well. It is hard when you are on
the end doing everything and they are on the end bored and thinking about their
family all the time. So I try to put myself in his shoes and make time to write
a letter or email, to let him know we are thinking of him even though we are
always busy and don’t show it as much.
There are a few pluses to deployments though. When we travel I don’t have to worry about
agreeing with my partner. If the kids
and I want to see something or do something, we just get in the car and go. We
don’t have to wait until he is off work or worry about him not being able to
take leave. When the kids have no school or are on vacation, there is nothing
standing in our way to get out and go. We could while he is here, but then we would
feel bad because he was left as work instead of having fun. The kids and I just try to make the best out
of the situation we have to deal with. There is no need to dwell and wish for
things that can’t happen. They are hard times, but we will get through yet
another deployment and only hope the next one doesn’t come as soon.
When I joined the military family, I knew I was bound to go
through a deployment at some time or another.
It is never easy for anyone not matter how many deployments you go
through. My husband just left a couple of weeks ago for a six month deployment. This is our third deployment and we have been
through a short tour as well. They never get any easier and each deployment
comes with new and different challenges. I have never been on the side of a deployment
where I am the one away from my family. I have always been on the side where I
am here to take care of the house and kids. I can’t say which one is easier,
but I can say my part is a lot of work. I am now the mommy and daddy to the
kids for the next twenty three weeks or so. I am the only one helping with the
homework, cooking, cleaning, disciplining, and the list goes on. The kids drive
me crazy as much as I drive them crazy. For the kids, it is hard for them to
realize six months in time form. That is
a very long time for them and seems like he is never coming back home. 
The deployments have come a long way in
communication since our first one. Our first deployment was letter writing or
emails to stay in contact. This deployment we are able to skype and make phone
calls. This has helped the kids tremendously.
We have once a week skype calls and the kids look forward to them every
week. The kids love being able to see their dad and where he stays while he is
there. 
I get so busy in my normal routine of taking care of
household chores, the kids, and the errands that I have to remember how much
stress this deployment has on my husband as well. It is hard when you are on
the end doing everything and they are on the end bored and thinking about their
family all the time. So I try to put myself in his shoes and make time to write
a letter or email, to let him know we are thinking of him even though we are
always busy and don’t show it as much.
There are a few pluses to deployments though. When we travel I don’t have to worry about
agreeing with my partner. If the kids
and I want to see something or do something, we just get in the car and go. We
don’t have to wait until he is off work or worry about him not being able to
take leave. When the kids have no school or are on vacation, there is nothing
standing in our way to get out and go. We could while he is here, but then we would
feel bad because he was left as work instead of having fun. The kids and I just try to make the best out
of the situation we have to deal with. There is no need to dwell and wish for
things that can’t happen. They are hard times, but we will get through yet
another deployment and only hope the next one doesn’t come as soon. 
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